' BEFORE YOU SAY I DO '

Its saturday again and the TGIF ( thank God its friday ) fever is over at least for this week for alot of 9-5 workers are always excited and dream of an everyday friday if nature could allow that.

For me its always an interesting day for it affords me time to re-visit my design collections again before i introduce them to prospective clients and also a great time to keep searching for that media,marketing or brand and advertising agency that would want to employ my services due to my experience, creative high level and passion for work in those industries.

And just as i decide to settle down in my living room to begin the usual saturday activity ,something profound struck me and i decided to do this article.

i have realised the number of marriages that has taken place in this past few months and though for me its a thing of joy but then taking a second thought at it  i have realised that alot of couples keep walking down the aisle without totally understanding what they are going into which as resulted in alot of batteries, divorce, uneccessary hatered that has even led to killings of all types not only in Nigeria but across nations around the world.

Do singles before getting married ask themselves this questions - why am i getting married? - Is love ever going to be enough to sustain us both till death do us part? - Why am i attracted to him or her and is it enough to get married to him or her? - If i can not live with this persons habits or character now will i be able to live with it after being married? - Does this person complete me or am just attracted to the status, luxury, or because he is so handsome and every lady wants him or she is so beautiful and all the men wants her? - Etc

See alot of questions needs to be asked before you decide to walk down the aisle to get married and its quite unfortunate young men and women of this time and age are too impatient to do so. To a large extent i should blame some of our families and society at large too for they put so much pressure on this single one's and some go ahead to persuade their children to marry persons from a certain class which if you ask me is so wrong for marriage is no respecter of class for if you are not destined to be together by God who knows all things then its end would be regrettable.

i say this alot to my friends that no matter how much of thousands or millions that is being spent on a couples wedding day and the number of guests that grace the wedding which is only going to be for that day and that day alone it will not save the marriage which is meant to be for a life time when problems begin to surface.

What i am now saying is lets not all be beclouded by the razzmatazz and flambouyancy,spending spree, status show-off and many others which is only meant for a day which is the day of the wedding and focus more on putting the right things into consideration before saying ' I DO ' which would make your marriage which is for a life time worthwhile.

Thank you for your time and pray this article would be of help to you all out there about to tie the knot. As for me i am going back to working on my designs and finding my employers... Later